We have all been told at one time or another not to be a wuss. So, knowing that we are not supposed to be a wuss, what exactly is the opposite of that? And, how does that fit into how to be irresistible to women?
The answer is simple: be a man who is courageous and bold.
Being bold has everything to do with being confident, but you might be wondering just how being courageous plays into driving women wild. To understand this, we need to take a look at what courage means to women.
I know that I spend a lot of time talking about the hidden detractors that could be messing up your chances with women or keeping you from having control over whether or not to continue the relationship. Among these possible detractors, one of the biggest is actually quite simple: failure to appropriately deploy in the all-important area of courage.
When it comes to learning how to attract women, this is one of the simplest, yet most important, things you need to learn.
As it turns out, courage is one of those overarching themes that pervade the very being of a man. When a guy is able to successfully inspire confidence in a woman, he has essentially succeeded in assuring her of his personal courage.
What courage means for attraction
So, let’s talk about just what courage is and its importance to you as you learn how to attract a woman. And, to get ever more specific, we will be talking about the type of courage that women find particularly attractive.
Here’s a hint: real courage has absolutely nothing to do with showing off or engaging in acts of meaningless foolishness. For example, jumping off of a roof to impress a woman or your friends does not mean you have courage; it just means you’re stupid.
Here is your next list of six important things to keep in mind as you figure out exactly how to be irresistible to women.
1. Courage when it is expected
This means having courage in any of the usual situations where most folks would have no problem with whatever is going on. It’s normal to have a phobia or two, but if you are deathly afraid of riding in an elevator, flying or coming across a spider, you are probably not going to inspire much confidence in women who likely do not have these fears. If you are afraid in situations where most women would be completely unfazed, you are going to have a difficult time instilling confidence in anyone around you. Of course, this concept of courage does not require you to go overboard and handle rattlesnakes, drive in a crazy ice storm or approach a mountain lion in the wild.
This is more about making sure you do not throw a hissy fit when a little bee flies within 10 feet of you and you aren’t even allergic to it. If the women in the area are going to wonder what the heck is wrong with you, you know it is probably something that you should work on getting over. This is particularly true if you really want to transform yourself as part of understanding how to be irresistible to women.
2. Courage in the face of the unknown
What do you do when there is uncertainty ahead? Do you procrastinate, try to avoid it altogether or face it head on?
Some guys will stick their heads in the sand and avoid uncomfortable or unknown situations, such as skipping work the day they are announcing layoffs or avoiding the doctor when something may be wrong. This is a surefire way to make sure the woman in your life knows that you are a complete coward.
Women love a guy who shows initiative and demonstrates leadership. This means that from now on you face whatever comes your way, unless – of course – it’s armed and deadly, and you aren’t.
3. Courage to accomplish your dreams and desires
This one should actually be on your list of things to work on, regardless of how it affects how to be irresistible to women. But, when it comes to how to attract a woman, this one really is important.
There are way too many times when I have heard some guy saying how much he would love to go to some exotic destination or get his motorcycle license or learn to fly a helicopter, only to quickly follow it up with some phrase starting with the word but and ending with some reason he can’t do it. Typical reasons include things like the risk of contracting some crazy disease, getting in an accident or worrying about getting arrested in a foreign country.
Women find this incredibly boring. They often want to add an element of excitement to their lives and appreciate a guy who has the courage to follow up and accomplish his dreams.
4. Courage when it really matters
When the chips are down and a quick decision needs to be made, women want a guy they can count on to keep a level head and to make the right decision in a time of crisis. This is when you are supposed to step up and become the decision-maker by keeping your wits about you and thinking fast.
Whether it’s a spider in the kitchen, an unexpected job loss, a family problem or a car accident, these situations are when you take the bull by the horns and exercise every ounce of courage you can muster.
Nothing inspires confidence like a guy who has courage when the chips are down.
5. Courage around other men
Every group tends to have an Alpha male, and it might not be you, but that is no reason to allow yourself to be dominated by one or more other guys in the group. Women won’t be impressed if you display passivity and allow yourself to be manhandled. Rectify this by taking leadership when needed, staying rational and assertive when provoked, and having the courage to make suggestions.
Women love a guy who doesn’t go around starting bar fights, but can stand his ground and never allow himself to be treated like a doormat. If you really want to know how to be irresistible to women, you will want to work on achieving this balance.
6. Courage towards the woman in your life
Aside from the above mentioned types of courage, it is also important to not be afraid of her. This starts right from the beginning when you approach her and strike up a conversation the first time you meet. This instantly starts the process of making her feel at ease around you.
As things develop, this also means that you do not kowtow to her at every turn, fearing that you will offend her, make her mad or lose her if you ever go against something she says or wants.
Courage is not the type of thing you can fake, and it is vital to your ongoing education on how to be irresistible to women. Unfortunately, it is not as easy as giving you a checklist to follow, since this list would ultimately fail you. When situations arise that require courage, you don’t have time to be fumbling around looking for your notes. Courage is something you have to honestly develop, along with good reasoning skills to help you get through sticky situations. That is how to attract women and what will work for you in the long run.